Every pregnancy loss is different and there is no right or wrong way to feel about it. Lets look at how your loss might affect you, your partner and other people in your life.
The loss of a baby in pregnancy can be an unhappy, frightening and lonely experience. It’s not a major event for everyone, but feelings of shock, grief and loss are common.
"I’ve never cried so much in my whole life. I was walking about with an empty feeling where I should have been holding my baby."
Some people find it very hard to talk about what has happened.
How you feel will depend on your circumstances, your experience of miscarriage and what the pregnancy meant to you.
You might have miscarried in the first few weeks of pregnancy or much later, or you might have had an ectopic or molar pregnancy. You might have suspected for some time that something was wrong – or the loss may have come as a complete shock. This pregnancy might have been particularly special. And this may not be the first time this has happened to you.
Perhaps there are other issues too – like fertility problems or coping with the loss on your own. You may be worried about your chances of getting pregnant again; or about having another loss if you do. Maybe you are feeling ill or drained after a particularly difficult physical experience.
"After the operation [for an ectopic pregnancy] I was in complete shock. I had just found out I was pregnant and then it was suddenly all over. Not only had I lost the baby but I also felt physically damaged."
All of these things and more will affect how you feel about your loss, immediately and over time. But whatever your circumstances, it is very common to feel any of the following:
"I get really sad and angry, then feel guilty because other women have it so much worse. I’m not sure how I should react, behave, move on."
Whatever your feelings, you are not alone. We hope that you will find comfort and understanding here and my services are available in clinic or online.
BUMP® is a proven system that works particularly well for those when IVF has failed.
This 10 minute initial conversation is free of charge and enables us to gain an understanding of where you are up to in your fertility journey. It provides an opportunity for you to ask questions and find out which BUMPFertility service is best for you.