IVF failed? How to Cope with Grief and Disappointment

Did your first IVF cycle fail? If so, you may be feeling different emotions such as grief, disappointment, sadness, frustration and even anger that you didn’t get the result you expected from fertility treatment. One of the first steps is to allow yourself to feel it and then time to heal and grieve. Remember, it’s okay to feel frustrated, disappointed and sad after IVF failed. Many couples find counselling and mindful meditation helpful and supportive; so before you jump straight into another cycle, give yourself space to decide what to do next. Preparing yourself emotionally for IVF can make a difference.

What's important to remember is many women who have had an failed IVF cycle, will be successful with a second or even a third cycle attempt if they address they underlying causes of poor implantation and IVF response. Not all the issues that influence IVF success can be corrected, but some can be addressed to help make the next cycle more likely to result in a pregnancy.

Many women who struggle to get pregnant, even with IVF, are diagnosed as poor responders. This label means that their ovaries respond poorly to ovarian stimulation. At BUMP 2nd Opinion, we feel that this easy “diagnosis” simply describes what’s happening, and doesn’t necessarily lead to addressing the root cause, and is not very helpful in really helping women have a successful pregnancy.

There are many reasons a woman could be a "poor responder" to infertility treatment. A few possibilities include:

  • too little ovarian stimulation
  • the wrong kind of ovarian stimulation
  • poor injection techniques
  • obesity
  • Stress
  • Thyroid Imbalance

At the root of it, however, a poor response to ovarian stimulation is often a consequence of something we call diminished ovarian reserve (DOR) or low functional ovarian reserve.

Ovarian Reserve (OR) is the term used to describe the ability of a woman’s ovaries to produce high-quality eggs. As women age, their OR naturally declines, which is why it is more difficult for older women to get pregnant, even with fertility treatment. But DOR isn’t exclusive to older women. In fact, approximately 10 percent of women suffer from premature ovarian aging (POA), a condition in which their OR begins to decline much earlier in life than average. These women not only have difficulties conceiving naturally, but are often “poor responders” to ovarian stimulation, especially if a “one-size-fits-all” ovarian stimulation is used.

Individualized stimulation protocols can address "poor response"

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For women suffering from DOR or POA, the problem is not that they are “poor responders,” but that their unique ovarian environments are not being addressed in their treatment and ovarian stimulation. At BUMP®, our first step is determining an appropriate diagnosis based on age-specific FSH/AMH levels and antral follicle counts. Once we have a better idea of our patient’s ovarian environment and ovarian reserve, we develop an individualized treatment plan in conjunction with a collaboration of health and medical experts that specifically addresses the cause of her 'poor response.'

Learn more about how BUMP® has helped many POA/DOR patients overcome their poor responder status here or contact BUMP® 2nd Opinion today.

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